How do you stay motivated and positive, even when things go wrong?
The reality is that it can be pretty challenging to not get discouraged in the face of setbacks and defeats. How do you keep a positive outlook when it feels like life is just handing you one hard blow after another?
And, if you’re anything like me, you tend to focus on the negative and on the things that are going wrong. Instead of seeing the A’s on the report card, we fixate on the C. Instead of hearing all the compliments, we only remember the criticism. Instead of celebrating a job well done, we worry about that one thing that went wrong. Instead of cheering for that half-pound weight loss, we lament the fact that we still have 20 pounds left to go.
Instead of seeing our glass half full, we wonder where all the water went.
But if I were to identify the one single thing that made the biggest impact for me, it was probably the one simple trick I learned for keeping my glass half full.
In fact, it is almost so simple—and yet so powerful—that I don’t know how I managed to go almost 40 years of my life without learning it.
Are you ready for it?
It’s writing down my wins, every single day.
Every time something good or positive or unexpected happens, I write it down. Every time I have a success or a triumph, however small, I write it down. Every time I make progress in the right direction, however minimal, I write it down.
It only takes a few seconds, and yet this ridiculously simple habit, over the course of the last few years, has changed everything.
Because in all honesty, the last year has been far from perfect. There have been a lot of really hard moments. Frustrations. Setbacks. Betrayals. Stress. Tragedy. Disappointment.
But keeping track of, and actually writing down all the good moments? That’s the one small difference that has completely changed my perspective. It keeps me looking at the positive, even when life throws a curveball or five my way.
Viktor Frankl, an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, a Holocaust survivor, and the founder of logotherapy, wrote –
“The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
In other words? It’s what we choose to focus on that will ultimately determine what we see.
My challenge for you this week is to try this one simple trick, just for a week, and see what happens. Whenever you notice something good—a kind word, a compliment, a small triumph, or success, jot it down. Keep track of the things that go right, then keep your list nearby as a reminder for when they don’t. You might just be amazed at the results!
Live with purpose, friends, and have a wonderful week!