Have you ever made purchases and I mean expensive purchases that you regretted buying? You thought it was the best buy only to find out that it wasn’t really the best.
Have you ever signed in to something or gave in to an installation because you thought it was indeed the best offer or the best service in town? You later found out that it wasn’t the best after all and you felt you were tricked or talked into it.
Have you ever made a decision in your life that you regretted making? It can be a purchase, a lifelong commitment, a choice or change of career, a transfer of location, etc.
And you kind of whispered to yourself, if only I can turn back time. “Everything that can go wrong will go wrong…” so I thought.
But what do you do since you cannot turn back time?
A Bad Decision
Yesterday I made one of those wrong decisions that I often make just because I WASN’T OR AM NOT WILLING TO WAIT.
Whatever that decision was, please don’t ask me because I only get frustrated with myself every time I remember what happened. Only one thing is sure, I’m stuck with it for a year.
The whole day yesterday I felt so frustrated and was telling myself how stupid I am for making such a decision. I was being hard on myself and I kept pounding myself with all the negative adjectives that I can think of. I was beating myself too much.
Until, I realized that I had to do something about what I feel. I cannot go on discouraged the whole time. What has been done has been done and there is nothing that I can do now. I learn from making my own mistakes.
I tried to encourage myself. I shifted gears and changed my perspective. I said “Lord, you can turn evil for good.” I wiped my tears dry, took a deep breath, stood up on my feet and explored the world.
I took a pen and paper and listed the benefits that I can get from what I did. I focused on what is good than what I did bad. I listed down the good that it can offer me and ignored the bad.
I made a mistake because:
- I didn’t ask or consult people who know about what I was going to do
- I didn’t listen when I was told not to or not yet
- I was being too lavish on myself not prudent enough to apply the ‘brakes’
Thus, I learned the following great lessons in life:
- Never buy, sign-in, or give in to any offers that come your life especially when you are in the most unstable phase of your life, emotionally troubled, mentally drained, physically weak and financially short.
- Waiting for the right time and the right people to do the work is the key. Don’t be in a haste. Timing is important. It’s true that haste makes waste.
- Acknowledge you did wrong. Realize that there is nothing you can do. Encourage yourself and enjoy the ride but be ready to face the consequences.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, just don’t do it again.
- Ask. Ask. Ask. Listen. Listen. Listen.
In conclusion, it will you cost nothing if you’d only ask and listen. Weigh matters first and NEVER DECIDE ON IMPULSE because you might end up making a wrong decision.
Thanks to my best friend who said “That’s ok, there might be something good from making that decision“. I was already condemning myself too much I don’t need another to do it for me.